"Get the lesson so you can move on." No matter how terrible an experience has been, acknowledge that it has contained a life lesson. Each experience has made you who you are today and who you will be tomorrow.
Move on!"
~ Author Unknown ~
Life's lessons can slow us down or stop us in our tracks if we let them. I think that as humans we were created to make mistakes. We know we are imperfect beings and yet we can be hard on ourselves if we've made a mistake or not acted in accordance with our authentic self. I used to beat myself up when I did something wrong. I was really critical of myself (Type A personality - comes with the territory!). As I've gotten older, I've learned to lighten up on myself. I finally reached a point that I had to accept that as much as I wanted to be, I was not perfect. The good news was that neither was anyone around me! Once I accepted that making mistakes was part of the journey, it took some of the pressure off.
I still analyze myself though. If I've acted in a certain way that I wasn't happy about (or reacted for that matter), I try to examine the situation so I can improve on it in the future. Why did I react that way? What was the trigger? How can I change my reaction if it happens in the future?
I don't know about you but my lessons keep coming back to me until I get it right. Have you noticed that? So now I pay more attention!
4 comments:
I love failure :-) Seriously, failure is where all our learning gets done - when we get things right its because we've done all the learning we need in that area!
Right now I'm developing a workshop for companies which teaches people to embrace failure - its a HUGE paradigm shift but such good fun!
I understand what you're saying in theory, Susan. But honestly, my Type A personality gets in the way a lot. That feeling to "always be perfect" is hard to get past. I am trying to lighten up but, man, it is really difficult! I have made progress though! I would be interested in your workshop. Where do you live? LOL
I live in Dubai... but hey, I'll travel anywhere :-)
Letting go of being perfect is really hard - but the need to be perfect is just your survival mechanism trying to hold you back and stop you growing. I love watching the Type As doing this work - when they "get it" they are the messiest and most creative of the lot - or maybe they just need to be the best most messy person in the room LOL!!
Dubai?! Ugh! I love your feedback and you are someone I'd love to have a cup of coffee with! I am going to think about what you wrote. Very helpful. I'm so glad we have connected and I love your blog!
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